No need to apologize!

2016 has not been the kindest. 

I have learned hard lessons about life, and love particularly — matters of the heart. I have also been forced to make harsh decisions about what is best for me, and I began reevaluating relationships — on all levels.

I am not sorry for what I’m feeling. I’m not depressed over what I’ve experienced.

I am no longer expending energy on relationships with family members whom I have previously attempted to establish ties with. If you cannot make time for me, then God bless you and so be it!

Friendships are treasured relationships — to me — but perhaps the importance of friendship is something that only I hold near and dear. That sentiment, seems not to be reciprocal these days. In that area of my life, again I will no longer make excessive efforts.

Romance? Maybe another time!

What can I do?!  

Dust myself off, and keep me in the foreground!

Looking towards more #soloadventures like this…


  1. Brian

    Undoubtedly your Mom would be proudest to see you in all that she has instilled in you. I’m not sure what your world looks like from up there (NYC), but from down here your inner strength has made for you the chance to make right and do whats best for you. Don’t ever feel that you need to prove yourself to ANYONE else but you.You know what to do, and how to do it. Your future IS what you make of it. See you on the other side of reality.

  2. Lynn

    Good morning my friend- yes I agree with your words and feel them deeply .. I see that life and situations change we are sometimes on a path alone so in need of our dearest friends yet they are not near. thank you for sharing your words as it will make me take a closer look not only of my friendships but at me-


  3. Felipa

    Detrel, there is definitely no reason to apologize for the life lessons that you have learned. The universe expects you to pass the test or you are doomed to repeat.

    People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

    When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed or just felt. They have come to assist you through a hard time, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Then, suddenly, the person disappears from your life. Your need has been met; their work is done.

    Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share or grow or give back. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They give you great joy. Believe it; it is real. But only for a season.

    Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons—things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all your other relationships.

    Think about the people in your life over the years. Whether they were there for a reason, a season or a lifetime, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life.

    And when they are gone, be thankful for the gifts you received from them when they were here—for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

  4. Ericka

    When you can step outside of a situation and see it for what it really is and push through all of the viewpoints of others comes clarity. Your sharing is inspiring, admirable and what I can aspire to be. Being me, worrying about me and do what’s best for me. Thank you Detrel! Proverbs 31:10 speaks of a virtuous woman, you are that woman of virtue! <3

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