Archive for the Realness ~ Life Circumstances Category

And then I Cried…

So many heartfelt losses during 2016. The tears rolled down my cheeks, and an ugly cry welled up in my throat (Kashif, Prince, Sis. Afeni, Colonel Abrams, George Michael, Phife, Natalie Cole, Maurice White, Vanity, Sharon Jones, Billy Paul, on & on)!

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Coming in 2017…

Sometimes you have to step out of the shadows in your own life when you realize that the life you thought you’d be living is not the life for you after all! #truestory

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Freedom

Independence ~ Self Assuredness 

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A Concerning Observation!

Last night, one of my very best friends treated me to a show featuring Charlie Murphy and D.L. Hughley, with Terry Hodges as the opening comedian as an early birthday gift. Anyone who really knows me, knows that I can just sit and ogle at D.L. for days — he’s been deemed my ‘next lifetime husband’ (snickering)!

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Living: Inhaling/Exhaling & Smiling!

So FYI ~ a vacation doesn’t always involve sandy beaches/airports or passport stamps ~ but when that word hasn’t been in your vocabulary for 5 years, and you know that it’s time ~ you plan to do things that you’ve wanted for quite a while and you make it a reality! On the day that I created a facebook photo album, I had a date to see a LADY! (a green lady who stands 305

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Do Our Black Lives Really Matter?

Heartbreaking ~ how can we fight and say that Black Lives should matter to others when they seem NOT to matter to US?!  Death at Jouvert

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No need to apologize!

2016 has not been the kindest.  I have learned hard lessons about life, and love particularly — matters of the heart. I have also been forced to make harsh decisions about what is best for me, and I began reevaluating relationships — on all levels. I am not sorry for what I’m feeling. I’m not depressed over what I’ve experienced. I am no longer expending energy on relationships with family members whom I have previously

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Proud Woman of Color

I was challenged a few times ~ what an honor ~ to post 1 picture that represents me being a ‘Proud Woman of Color’ and though you may have seen this particular picture more than once, I chose it again because I continue to emulate the queen whose lap I sat on at the age of 4 (1972). I knew then that I was a Nubian Princess because she was the epitome of black pride.

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An Open Letter from A Loving Mother to Her Only Son

That September 4th morning in 1992 when I realized that my trip to the hospital meant that I was about to bring forth a life, I leaned over the top of the banister at your grandma’s house and cried. I broke into wailing sobs. Thoughts raced through my mind from wondering if I would be a good enough mom to you, to being honored that God would bless me with such a precious gift! And,

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Death: Too Much is More Than Enough!

I said to someone recently that 2016 has had the ring of death in the air like never before & they attempted to shush me by saying that we just pay more attention to death now because we are getting older. I disagreed w/that statement then and still, now. 2016 is not even 5 months deep & the loss has spanned from celebs that we thought we knew because their faces were part of our

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Healthy Change 

  I am a picky eater — have always been. I love vegetables, dried fruit and smoothies, but I can’t live without seafood (particularly: fish & shrimp). I love rewarding recipes, blogs and articles that insight new ideas about what I might like to concoct in the kitchen. A late night commercial led me to this website, I Eat Grass that I plan to look into with passion. If you’re reading this, and know of other places

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It was all a dream…

The other day I was awakened from one of the most startling dreams I’ve ever had.  I remember wiping tears away because I was relieved by what the dream had revealed to me. In the dream, I learned that my mother had not actually died nearly 4 years ago.  

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Unforgiveness!

Joel Osteen’s message this morning reminded me to rid myself of ‘unforgiveness’ ~ something that I have been praying on for nearly 4 years ~ I replay in my mind those who wronged my mother, in life and death & it angers me while causing extreme pain… Unforgiveness is blocking my blessings.

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Internalizing…

  

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Not My Will, But Thy Will

As the year 2015 winds down, thankfully I can say that I have made it this far. “Tomorrow is not promised,” is something we often hear — and may have even said ourselves. The honest truth is that the next minute is not actually promised to any of us!

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Take Me to the King

Day 3 of the Soul Music Challenge: changing things up a bit because thoughts of my mom woke me out of a dream a short while ago. (I was calling out to her w/no response from her. I actually heard myself calling her & was alarmed.)— When I first heard Tamela Mann sing the song ‘Take Me to the King’ it hit me hard because it definitely could have been written by mom: she was

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Days of War: A Reflection 

Looking back over my life: remembering 1990-1991, having spent my time during the Gulf War in Khobar Towers, under constant missile attack. The war was short-lived but the hard work of caring for, and being accountable for the Iraqi prisoners in the camps we supervised continued for us beyond the disturbance. As a member of the 800th Military Police Brigade, I met people from around the globe during that time & had hope that those

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Shedding Layers of Uncomfortability!

For years I’ve watched women — black sisters — fawning over silky #563 or wet and wavy #202 (sarcasm) and spending hundreds of dollars while doing so. In retrospect I look back on the image I created while trying to mask my own truth. My maternal genetics were imploding in my life — and were killing my hair follicles along the way. — fast forward 10 years — As I sat in the parking lot

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Inner me…

I ran across this picture on pinterest, and it spoke volumes to the mystique within me. I think that it plagues many people that I don’t divulge my every thought or belief. I never found that to be a necessity in life.  Besides, it keeps others on their toes when dealing with you…   

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Be prepared, Your turn is coming!

thinking out loud (from experience & from a point of compassion for others) when someone loses a loved one, please don’t rush to ask the family members when the funeral or memorial service will take place ~ especially not within 24 hours of when the person passed away remember that folks are broken hearted & grieving and really don’t want to think about dealing w/final arrangements, or may not have moved beyond the shock of

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