Detrel, I am 45+ years of age and I was born to Helen & Oliver at Westchester Square Hospital in the fine borough of the Bronx – a place where stars are born and bred! I’m here to leave my mark on a world that hasn’t always been so kind to me. I refuse to allow the foolish ways of others to deter me from the path that God has ordained for my life. The
Read on... →sometimes you have to stop, take stock in your own life and acknowledge just how blessed you are in spite of your journey … my best days are ahead and the sun will keep shining!
Read on... →So many heartfelt losses during 2016. The tears rolled down my cheeks, and an ugly cry welled up in my throat (Kashif, Prince, Sis. Afeni, Colonel Abrams, George Michael, Phife, Natalie Cole, Maurice White, Vanity, Sharon Jones, Billy Paul, on & on)!
Read on... →Sometimes you have to step out of the shadows in your own life when you realize that the life you thought you’d be living is not the life for you after all! #truestory
Read on... →Last night, one of my very best friends treated me to a show featuring Charlie Murphy and D.L. Hughley, with Terry Hodges as the opening comedian as an early birthday gift. Anyone who really knows me, knows that I can just sit and ogle at D.L. for days — he’s been deemed my ‘next lifetime husband’ (snickering)!
Read on... →So FYI ~ a vacation doesn’t always involve sandy beaches/airports or passport stamps ~ but when that word hasn’t been in your vocabulary for 5 years, and you know that it’s time ~ you plan to do things that you’ve wanted for quite a while and you make it a reality! On the day that I created a facebook photo album, I had a date to see a LADY! (a green lady who stands 305
Read on... →Heartbreaking ~ how can we fight and say that Black Lives should matter to others when they seem NOT to matter to US?! Death at Jouvert
Read on... →2016 has not been the kindest. I have learned hard lessons about life, and love particularly — matters of the heart. I have also been forced to make harsh decisions about what is best for me, and I began reevaluating relationships — on all levels. I am not sorry for what I’m feeling. I’m not depressed over what I’ve experienced. I am no longer expending energy on relationships with family members whom I have previously
Read on... →I was challenged a few times ~ what an honor ~ to post 1 picture that represents me being a ‘Proud Woman of Color’ and though you may have seen this particular picture more than once, I chose it again because I continue to emulate the queen whose lap I sat on at the age of 4 (1972). I knew then that I was a Nubian Princess because she was the epitome of black pride.
Read on... →That September 4th morning in 1992 when I realized that my trip to the hospital meant that I was about to bring forth a life, I leaned over the top of the banister at your grandma’s house and cried. I broke into wailing sobs. Thoughts raced through my mind from wondering if I would be a good enough mom to you, to being honored that God would bless me with such a precious gift! And,
Read on... →I said to someone recently that 2016 has had the ring of death in the air like never before & they attempted to shush me by saying that we just pay more attention to death now because we are getting older. I disagreed w/that statement then and still, now. 2016 is not even 5 months deep & the loss has spanned from celebs that we thought we knew because their faces were part of our
Read on... →I am a picky eater — have always been. I love vegetables, dried fruit and smoothies, but I can’t live without seafood (particularly: fish & shrimp). I love rewarding recipes, blogs and articles that insight new ideas about what I might like to concoct in the kitchen. A late night commercial led me to this website, I Eat Grass that I plan to look into with passion. If you’re reading this, and know of other places
Read on... →The other day I was awakened from one of the most startling dreams I’ve ever had. I remember wiping tears away because I was relieved by what the dream had revealed to me. In the dream, I learned that my mother had not actually died nearly 4 years ago.
Read on... →Joel Osteen’s message this morning reminded me to rid myself of ‘unforgiveness’ ~ something that I have been praying on for nearly 4 years ~ I replay in my mind those who wronged my mother, in life and death & it angers me while causing extreme pain… Unforgiveness is blocking my blessings.
Read on... →As the year 2015 winds down, thankfully I can say that I have made it this far. “Tomorrow is not promised,” is something we often hear — and may have even said ourselves. The honest truth is that the next minute is not actually promised to any of us!
Read on... →Day 3 of the Soul Music Challenge: changing things up a bit because thoughts of my mom woke me out of a dream a short while ago. (I was calling out to her w/no response from her. I actually heard myself calling her & was alarmed.)— When I first heard Tamela Mann sing the song ‘Take Me to the King’ it hit me hard because it definitely could have been written by mom: she was
Read on... →For years I’ve watched women — black sisters — fawning over silky #563 or wet and wavy #202 (sarcasm) and spending hundreds of dollars while doing so. In retrospect I look back on the image I created while trying to mask my own truth. My maternal genetics were imploding in my life — and were killing my hair follicles along the way. — fast forward 10 years — As I sat in the parking lot
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